What I'm Thinking

Gay Marriage

I sincerely do not understand why gay marriage is even a political issue. 

Many people lack the ability to comprehend that government and religion are two separate entities. It blows my mind. Yeah, you’re religious. Your priest, pastor, reverend, chaplain, etc. tells you that gays are bad. Congratulations. You don’t have to like gays. You have that right. But gays also have the right not to follow your religion. So your church/religion says gays shouldn’t be married. Okay. You don’t have to believe in gay marriage. But until the US becomes a theocracy, you should recognize the fact that not everyone follows your religion and therefore should not be subject to the restraints of your religion. Freedom of religion works both ways. You have the right to believe in and practice your religion, and I have the right to not. Until there is an argument against gay marriage that isn’t religion based, objections to gay marriage should be void.

You want to argue that marriage is inherently a religious institution? Why the hell is marriage government-regulated then!? The concept confuses me! Marriage is a religious institution. Great, I get it. So it shouldn’t be involved with government. The only thing that the government should be able to grant is civil unions to both heterosexual and homosexual couples. Marriage is for the church, not government. It shouldn’t be government-regulated. The fact that a religiously defined institution that currently discriminates based on sex impacts taxes, power of attorney, wills, etc. is insane. 

Furthermore, why are so many people afraid of gay marriage and gays in general? Gays have always been around. It’s not like all women who like women came from a different planet within the last ten years. You have lived with them your whole life! Nothing in your life is going to change if you just accept their existence. You can complain all you want about gays “shoving their lifestyle in your face”, but you then fail to recognize the hypocrisy of that statement. If the average heterosexual couple acted any different than the average homosexual couple, it’d be understandable. But the PDA comes from both. And the gay pride parades? There wouldn’t be a need for the parades if gays weren’t made to feel ashamed every other day of the year.

Lastly, the morality argument kills me. The entire argument against homosexuality is so overly focused on sex, it makes me uncomfortable. What is never emphasized is the actual emotions. I’m gay. But I’m not in it for the sex. It’s not about the physicality. My relationship is built on mutual affection, attraction, respect, and care like any heterosexual relationship. Why that can’t be understood makes no sense to me. Yes, I like the male form. But yes, I also like the mentality of males. And that is much more important to me.

I was never abused. I wasn’t abandoned. My parents are straight. I never had any gay family members or adults in my life growing up. When I was three, I wanted ruby slippers for my birthday. I played basketball and soccer. I would sing and choreograph routines to Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera when I was 6. I always remember being gay. All the gay myths are ridiculous. If anyone chose to be gay, they’re the stupidest person in the world. I still haven’t heard one good reason why anyone would choose to be gay. I didn’t.

Gay pride isn’t about being happy to be gay. Truthfully, no one is happy to be gay. No one wants to feel excluded and discriminated against. The reason suicide rates are so much higher in LGBTQ youth isn’t because gays are inherently mentally unstable. It’s because society has created a culture of fear, disgust, and hate towards LGBTQ people. When that environment is present, how could anyone seriously be happy about being gay? Gay pride is about accepting who you are and embracing it.